Correcting Actions v Condemning People

Do not judge me. Who are you to judge me? Walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me.

All very common today on social media platforms. Why? We all disagree with each other, so we end up telling others what to do, and then we get upset that someone has judged us. I see it every day. The Bible seems a bit contradictory on the subject, as it tells us to correct others, and it tells us not to judge. Or does it?

Now I have written about this in the past in my post entitled ‘Judgement Day of Golf‘, so you can take a look there for all the scriptures telling us that we should judge Christians. I am not going to go through all of that again, but I want to show a practical difference between the types of actions that we have lumped into one word. Judging. The first ‘judging’ is more ‘correcting actions’ and the second ‘judging’ is ‘condemning people’. Just to make it clear, we are called to do the first to fellow Christians. We are not called to do the second – that is the devil’s job and he doesn’t need any help.

Here is a true – yet very silly – story, but it shows the difference between the two quite clearly.

A few weeks ago, I was at a lifegroup evening, and it came time to leave. I grabbed the car seat containing our sleeping baby, and headed out of the door. One of the other members of the lifegroup was driving down the road, having just left, and saw me coming out of the door. He hooted (honked his horn for my American friends) to say goodbye as he drove past. Now this is one of my pet hates. We always have people hooting to say goodbye where we live, and it wakes us and the baby up. So some thoughts immediately came into my head, and most of them were not pretty. ‘How dare he be so inconsiderate? What about the neighbours? He may wake the baby, how can someone be so selfish?’ I then got into my car and thought about it. He is not selfish or inconsiderate. I know him, and he is kind and very accepting of others. So what I thought about him was not true. However, his actions may have been wrong. So how was this wrong, and what should I have done?

I was not dealing with the actions in love. I was condemning the person. I was labelling him as selfish and inconsiderate, because I associated his actions with those traits. That was not the case. I had judged his assumed motives (which I got wrong), not his actions. Had I calmly spoken to him the next time, and explained how his actions could inconvenience others, that would have been fine. That is what we should be doing. Showing people how their actions could cause harm to themselves or others, and suggesting some changes. Yes, we often use scripture for this, because we (should) all trust God and what He has said. This is done in love, because we want what is best for others. All I did was condemn. Labelling the person as things which he is not, because that was my logical conclusion for his actions. This is condemning. This is what the devil is SO good at. ‘How can you be a child of God, you still sin?’ Sound familiar? I’m not sure about you, but I’d rather not do the devil’s work.

The other side of the coin is being on the receiving end of the correction. If someone comes to you in love, to try and address some of your actions, how do you respond? Do you use one of the cliché comments at the start of this post? If so, maybe you want to rethink that. Do you not want to be the best that you can be? That overwhelming feeling to jump to your defence, could just be pride. Have you ever thought about that?

I hope that this helps you next time you need to judge, or you are judged.

Until the next post.



Trusting in God and Not His Blessing

It has been a while since wrote a blog post, and there have been a few reasons for that. None of which are really valid, so here I am back with another.

One of the reasons for not writing is that I have a newborn baby. If you have read the last few posts, you will know more about the blessing that he is. So why am I writing about trusting God and not His blessing? Even when we receive from God, there is always something else we are trusting Him for. In my case, one blessing has illustrated the need for another. Let me explain.

As many of you know, having a baby means a major life change. My wife and I were both working and I had started my own business, which was growing, but not as fast as I would have liked it to. Now all of a sudden, my wife is on maternity leave and we are about to be on one salary. That of a business which is up one month and down the next. So what would you do? I am a very logical person, which you would assume by the business that I have, but faith and logic often don’t mix very well. My logic said to close the business, and go and get a job. Then I could have a constant salary, and would be able to provide for my family. Sound good? God then told me to keep the business, and continue with what I was doing. Was I sure this was God? Can this be right? I then had a complete stranger come to me after church, and tell me that God gave them a prophetic word for me. She said, “The work that you are doing now, God wants you to continue with that, do not give it up.” OK, I guess it was God. So what now?

I was now in a time where I had to make a decision. Trust God, or listen to my flesh. Let’s take a look at a situation in the Bible which relates to this.

Matthew 8:23-26

Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!”
He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.
There are a few interesting things here. Firstly, these were fishermen. They knew the sea. If they were scared, it was not because they were over-reacting. If they were scared, there was a good reason for it. We often have a good reason to be scared, but Jesus tells us not to be afraid, as we can trust in Him. The second thing is that they went to Jesus, and woke Him. Isn’t that what we are taught to do? When you have a problem, go to Jesus in prayer. Why did He then get upset with the disciples when they went to Him? In my opinion, it is because Jesus told them they were going to the other side (in other accounts of this story), but they didn’t believe Him that they would make it to the other side. This is unbelief. This is why Jesus was getting upset with them. Thirdly, Jesus rebukes them for being afraid, before He calms the storm. Now I know it says it the other way around in some accounts, but Jesus telling us to have faith before He does the miracle, is a common theme throughout scripture. Why does He do this? Simple. This is the title of this post. So that we won’t have faith in the miracle, but have faith in Him. If He had calmed the seas, the disciples would have had faith in the calm seas, Jesus wanted them to have faith in Him, despite the raging seas. Do you see the difference?

So how does this relate to me? My prayers have been along the lines of, “God please provide for us so that I don’t need to be afraid.” What does God’s Word say? It says that He will provide. In fact that He will provide abundantly. Also, I need the money, so that I can trust in the money, where Jesus wants me to trust in Him. This is harder to do when you don’t have the money, but no one said this would be easy. I ‘know’ our financial state, just like the disciples ‘knew’ the seas. I run to Jesus and ask Him to help me, even though His scripture says He will, just like His followers in the story. I want Jesus to fix the problem so that I will no longer have to be afraid, just like the disciples. Jesus wants me to trust in His Word, despite the situation. Just like He expected from the disciples.

God is faithful. He will come through. He always has, and He always will.

What are you afraid about? What are you waiting for God to provide? Do you have faith in God for the miracle, or do you have to see the miracle to not be afraid? I’ll leave that for you to think about. I hope that this has been as much of a blessing to you as it has to me.

Until next time.


Has it Already Been Done?

So I hope that you all read my last post, which was our testimony, if you haven’t done so you may want to check it out. Now I move on to the next phase, and in order to get my mind around this, I would like to explain it to you. I hope that this will help to strengthen my faith, and help you to do the same with yours.

So my wife and I are pregnant, now it is time to start believing for the financial provision. I have been running my own business for a few years now, but it is not quite at the stage where it can support both of us. I have asked God if I should quit it and get a full time job, and He has told me in no uncertain terms to keep the business. Now my spirit is telling me to do that, but my brain is throwing a wobbly, because logically it is a very risky move. I have been a Christian for long enough to know to listen to my spirit, but how do I have that peace, when my brain is disagreeing? One way I find that helps, is to understand why I can expect it to happen. Understanding scripture helps to build faith. If we understand God’s promises, it is easier to believe them.

One of the main issues which I have come across of late, are 3 generally accepted statements, which we as Christians tend to believe and say. I’m not sure if they are true though, here they are:

  1. It will happen in God’s time.
  2. Pray until God gives it to you.
  3. If it is God’s will, it will happen.

Now I don’t want to be rude, as I have heard all of these comments by people that I love and respect, but they are misleading at best. They are often said to encourage, but they do not encourage me, let me explain. Let’s start with number 3, if it is God’s will. Yes, it is God’s will that I prosper. How do I know this? Simple, the Bible says so. Yes, you may know someone who loves Jesus who is not prospering, but that does not change what the Bible says. So if the Bible says that God wants us to prosper, and we are not prospering (yet), then what is the problem? The problem is that we have not yet received what God has given. This brings number 2 into play, if God has already given it, why do we need to pray? Well in short, we shouldn’t pray only for things, praying is just communicating within a relationship. If you have a best friend, and you only ever talk to them when you want something, what do you think would happen? I pray because I love God, I try and pray mostly just for the sake of it. Do I sometimes get sucked into praying only for things, yes, but that shouldn’t be the case. So where does that leave me? I don’t need to wonder if it is God’s will, I know it is, so 3 is irrelevant. God has already provided for me, so I don’t need to hassle Him in prayer. Still not sure of this? Let me ask you a simple question. When did Jesus save you? If you’re thinking about when you became a Christian, then you’re wrong. Jesus saved you 2000 years ago on the cross, you ACCEPTED it when you confessed with your mouth that you believed that Jesus is Lord. Now you may thing that I am splitting hairs, but I am not, I believe this is true for most things. Jesus did what He needed to on the cross, we just haven’t received it all yet, which brings me to number 1. If things always happen in God’s timing, then why did the Israelites spend 40 years doing a 2 week journey? Was that God’s plan, or their disobedience?

So here is where I am now. I believe that it is God’s will that my business prospers, I also believe that He has already provided me with all that I need in order to see this happen. I know that I need faith, and I know that I need to be obedient to what I believe that God is telling me. There is a fine line between knowing that God has done it, believing that we will receive it, and taking any action required on our part. Doing all of this without worrying, is what I am trying to get right.

Any thoughts? Do you agree with me on this? Do you understand it differently? How do you get this balance right? I would be interested in your views on this, it is not something that I have accomplished, but more a current walk of mine. I know what I believe to be the truth, but walking in that is a whole other story.


Testimony Time

At the beginning of this year, on the 3rd January to be exact, I wrote a prophetic post about 2016 being the year of the testimonies. I encouraged people to bring their testimonies and share them. No one has shared any on the post, but now I have one to share, and it is a rather big one.

Here it is, I decided to do a video for this one.

To God be all the glory!

Richard & Wendy.

The Danger of ‘God’s Timing’

Let me make it clear what I am saying here, before I get angry comments. I am not saying that God does not have a plan, I am merely saying that often breakthroughs take longer than they should, not because of ‘God’s timing’, but because of us. Do we need to feel guilty or condemned? No. But we can often do things to help. I often hear Christians say things like, “It will happen in God’s timing”, which is supposed to make me feel better. It doesn’t. I will attempt to show you why people say this, why it doesn’t help me, and why it isn’t completely Biblical. Here goes.

Let’s first start on the Biblical aspect. Do you know of any scripture which says that God has a perfect timing for the events in our lives, and that each event will happen at the right time, regardless of our actions? I couldn’t find one. I even googled this to find posts written about God’s perfect timing, and I have to say that none came close to changing my mind. The scripture they used was taken completely out of context. If I have missed something, please let me know, but I can’t find scripture to back up the above question. Take a look at the Israelites. They spent 40 years in the desert, a journey which should have taken a few weeks. Why? Was it God’s perfect timing, or the fact that they kept messing it up? Now the reason why we often think it was God’s perfect timing, is that God still comes through. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them”. We see this happen, and then we assume that it was God’s timing from the beginning. It is often God cleaning up our mess. Now please don’t misunderstand, it is not always through our sin that we get ourselves into trouble. I have been in the situation before where I have prayed for a breakthrough, and for God to reveal to me if there was a generational curse over my life. After He confirmed, I broke the curse, and then saw a breakthrough. It was the curse that delayed things. I had the authority to break it, but I didn’t know about it. Now God was involved, as He revealed it to me, but it wasn’t delayed due to ‘His timing’. If I hadn’t prayed and asked for a revelation, or if I hadn’t broken the curse, I wouldn’t have seen a breakthrough.

Having said that, why doesn’t it help me when people tell me that it is down to God’s timing? Simple. I don’t believe that it is true. The other reason why it doesn’t help, is that it gives me the wrong impression of God. When I am going through heartbreak, or when I am enduring a really tough time, someone tries to help. They tell me that it is God’s timing. This tells me that God knows what I am going through (which He does), but it is not His time, so I must just suffer for a while until He is good and ready. If your child was in pain, and you could fix it, would you wait until the time was right for you, or would you fix it straight away? Are you a better parent than God? Something to think about. The other problem with God’s timing, is that it says to me I am doing everything right and it is just down to God that I haven’t had a breakthrough. I shouldn’t pray, I shouldn’t ask for wisdom, I shouldn’t do anything, I should just sit on my butt and wait for God’s perfect time. This is not what the scriptures teach. What about resisting the devil? What about the spiritual battle going on? Bad things are caused by the enemy. God wants to help us. That is the bottom line.

So why do people say this? There are 3 reasons that I can come up with. 1. It sounds right and comforts people. If people think that God has a plan for, or even be the cause of, their pain and suffering, then they are more inclined to endure it. It also take the responsibility off of us. Don’t worry about doing anything, God will do it all when He is ready. 2. It clears us of responsibility. If you say this to someone, then you don’t have to minister to them, you don’t have to help. God will help when He is ready. 3. It fits in nicely with the reformed theology. God does everything when He is ready, and everything that happens is the will of God. Don’t get me started on this, as I can go on for a while as to why this is not right. I think that this has come largely from this theology, again, which takes any responsibility away from us.

So what can you take from this. When things are not going as they should, there is something that you can do about it. Ask God for wisdom (James 1:5), resist the devil (James 4:7) and have faith. And remember, that if you trust in God, He will work all things (even your mistakes) for your good. It is not God causing you pain, it is the enemy. Will God sometimes call us into difficult situations? Yes. But remember John 10:10. We need God to play a part in our lives, we need Him to play the biggest part of all. I am not disputing that. I am merely saying that when things are not going well, we can fight the enemy (in the name of Jesus) and not just sit back and wait for God to do it.

Be blessed.


Who’s Bigger?

Today I would like to lead on from last week’s post, with a simple change of actions. We always talk about repentance, but what we don’t mention is that repentance is a change of actions, not just being sorry. Here is a change of actions that I believe that I need to do, so I thought that I would share it with you. Following on from last week, where we looked some more at faith and unbelief. Today’s challenge will help to remove some unbelief, and exercise your faith. This phrase is not new to me, but it is something that I need to put into practice. Are you ready for it?

We need to stop telling our God how big our problems are, but tell our problems how big our God is.

What does this mean? When you are praying, do you go on telling God how big the issue is that you need to overcome? Do you feel that doing that makes God more aware of your situation? He knows, He doesn’t need you to explain. My mission is to spend more time praising God (in prayer) for who He is and what He has done. Let my problems know how big God is, instead of the other way around.

I have seen some miracles in my life of late (I’ll share the testimony at some point), but now I need to have faith for even bigger things. Exciting, but rather scary. I have been guilty of telling God just how big this next step is, but I am now making the effort to tell my ‘mountain’ how big God is, and that it is going to move.

What would happen if you joined me in this?

Until next week.


How Would You Answer Jesus?

I heard a very refreshing sermon today, so I thought that I would share the key points with you. It was about the lame man, who was waiting at the pool, trying to get healed. Here is the passage, take a look.

John 5 v 6-8. When Jesus saw him and knew he had been ill for a long time, he asked him, “Would you like to get well?”

“I can’t, sir,” the sick man said, “for I have no one to put me into the pool when the water bubbles up. Someone else always gets there ahead of me.”

Jesus told him, “Stand up, pick up your mat, and walk!”

Here we have a classic response to Jesus, which sadly most of us have today. It is a dangerous response because it shows unbelief, which we find in other scripture caused Jesus not to be able to do miracles. Why do we do this? Put yourself in this man’s place. You have been sitting there for years, you have seen people get healed, but only those who get into the pool first when the water is stirred. You can’t get into the pool because you are paralysed. That is the only way you know to get healed, and it is unobtainable.

Then Jesus comes along. He asks a simple question. “Would you like to get well?” You reply to Jesus in the natural, the only way you understand. You start telling Him why you cant achieve it, you start telling him your problems. He is not asking about your problems, He’s asking you if you want the solution. In this case, Jesus heals the man. What about your case? When you read scripture about healing, what is your response? When someone approaches you and wants to minister to you, what is your response?

I have actually had people come up to me and ask for prayer, and then they go on to tell me why my prayer won’t work. They ask for healing, then they tell my why they won’t actually get healed. They tell me what the doctors said, how they feel, what they have read on the internet, and what others have said. I am not concerned about that, I believe that God wants them healed, and I believe they can receive that healing. They often don’t think that though, sometimes I have to convince them.

So I am not going to drag this out any longer, I just want to ask you some questions. What is your response to Jesus’ question? Do you believe that you will receive your healing, or are you giving God all of the excuses as to why you won’t?

Think about it and make the change if you need to.


Great Examples of Faith

I have recently been thinking about faith, and the affect that it has on our lives, and I have come to realise that it is much bigger than I thought. I used to read scripture like where Jesus tells the disciples that they can use faith to move a mountain, and I used to think, “Yes, in theory it can”. No, it does. This is what I am trying to get my head around, because we know faith is important, but if we don’t ACTUALLY believe, then we don’t have faith. I need to build my faith and eliminate any unbelief, so I can see my faith move some mountains. This passage is just as much for me as it is for you.

Read Hebrews 11. Don’t just continue reading this post, actually go and read Hebrews 11. The Bible mentions 18 different people or people groups, who use faith. This excludes the very first, God, when He created the world. This whole chapter is showing us how important faith is, but do we really get it? I don’t think so, because if we did, we would see more mountains move. Let’s take a look at some key points.

Verse 3. By faith we understand that the entire universe was formed at God’s command, that what we now see did not come from anything that can be seen. What does this mean? Simply, you couldn’t see the universe, God commanded it to be formed through faith, and it was formed. Wow. Now obviously evolutionists will counter this, but I believe the Bible, and I believe that God spoke the universe into being. God spoke it, He believed it, and it happened. Where have I heard that before? Oh yes, Jesus told us to speak to the mountain, believe that it will move, and it will move. Simple. Speak it, believe it, see it.

The chapter them goes on to list story after story of people in the Bible who had faith, and what they managed to achieve by putting it into practice. I am not going to list them here, because you have just read about them. How many times does the Bible use so many examples to make a point? I can’t think of any like this, so it must be important. So what is faith? Verse 1. Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see. I need to get my head around this. I need to start seeing what I believe for as a reality. This is the hard part. We all believe that miracles happen, and we all believe that God CAN do things. We don’t always believe that something WILL happen, or even HAS happened and just needs to manifest in the physical. What I mean by that is that it has already happened in the spiritual, it just needs to happen in the physical. We are lead to believe that what we hope for is a possibility, but do we believe that it is a reality? Can you believe that before you see it as a reality? Can you see something in your mind and believe it to be real, before you see it with your eyes? That is faith. That is what I need to get my head around. That is what I need to start doing. How about you?

After reading about all of the people who had faith, you may be thinking that this is something of the past and no longer applies today. This is not the case, in fact, I think it applies even more today. Take a look at verses 39 and 40. All these people earned a good reputation because of their faith, yet none of them received all that God had promised. For God had something better in mind for us, so that they would not reach perfection without us. We have the Holy Spirit helping us, we have a new, pure, righteous, born-again, spirit. We should be doing even more than the people mentioned. If we can get our heads around this passage of scripture, and actually start doing it, the sky is no limit. We need to use our faith, eliminate unbelief, and start to see what we believe as reality. Is this easy? No. If it were I would be doing it. I need to do it. I need to make what I believe, what scripture teaches me, a reality. If you are not seeing what scripture teaches in your life, then maybe you don’t believe it as a reality? Maybe you need to join me in getting serious about this.

Let’s move some mountains.


Turn Unbelief into Faith by Switching Your Sentence Around

What goes before and after your but? That is the question for today. Does it make sense? Once you have read this blog post, I hope that it not only makes sense, but makes a difference.

I have often taught on healing, I have quite an extreme view on it, and I take quite a lot of verbal abuse from Christians. People are constantly trying to convince me that God doesn’t always heal, and that it is sometimes His will that people are ill. As far as I am concerned, this is complete rubbish, and I will not let their views change me. Having said this, I do get some constructive questions, and one of them is the following. How do you balance the physical ‘reality’ of your situation and the spiritual ‘reality’ of what the Bible says? Both are a ‘reality’ but both are also not. Let me explain. The physical reality is that I wear glasses, as I am short sighted. The spiritual reality is that Jesus died for my healing, and it is God’s will that I see properly. There is no reason why I shouldn’t receive my healing and throw the glasses away.

When I teach about healing, it always goes hand in hand with faith. We know that it is faith that facilitates our healing, and we also know that unbelief will oppose or even prevent our healing. We also know that the power of life and death is in the tongue. We know the importance of speaking healing into our lives, and we know the importance of speaking the right words. Positive words. Having said this, I can’t go around saying that I don’t need glasses and that I can see perfectly. That would be a lie in the physical, and would confuse people. I also won’t walk around saying how bad my eyes are and that I can’t see without glasses. That is not faith. So how do we balance the two? We say both, but we need to be careful what comes before and after our but. Make sense?

When we make a statement with two parts, separated with a ‘but’, the second part is ‘more true’. Think about it. I went to the park expecting sunshine, but it rained. Both halves of the statement are true, but the latter half trumps the first and therefore is seen as the greater truth. So let’s look at my situation in this light. I can say it one of two ways. I am healed by Jesus and I believe that I will receive full sight, but I am short sighted and I need to wear glasses. How are you left feeling after this statement? I am left feeling negative, yes there is a positive statement, but it is overshadowed by the ending negative one. I think that statement speaks more unbelief than belief. Having said that, this is how I hear many Christians responding. I also hear most non-Christian people talking like this (although they may not mention Jesus). Let’s take the same sentence, and just switch it around. I am short sighted and I need to wear glasses, but I am healed by Jesus and I believe that I will receive full sight. How does that leave you feeling? Much more positive I trust, it makes me more positive. The two comments are both true in a sense. I am short sighted at the moment, in the physical. I am also healed in the spiritual, and I do believe that my healing will manifest in the physical. The statements do seem to contradict each other, but they can both be put in a sentence together. The only question is which one goes before the ‘but’, and which one goes after? Which one is more true to you? Which one do you think will prevail? That is the question. The one that you believe to be ‘more true’ will be after the but. Will your belief be ‘more true’ or your unbelief? Will your negative physical ‘reality’ be ‘more true’ or will your positive spiritual ‘reality’ be the greater truth? Which one will come after your ‘but’?

I will leave you to think about that. I will leave you to think about what you actually believe, and how you will structure your sentences to show that belief. It sounds like such a simple thing, but if the power of life and death is actually in the tongue, it will make a massive difference. The other thing is how it leaves you feeling. The negative way of saying the statement will leave you negative and add unbelief. The positive way will leave you feeling positive, and speak belief.

What goes before and after your ‘but’?


Being Supportive Doesn’t Always Mean Agreeing

Let me paint you a picture, to illustrate today’s topic. You have a good friend who is completely tone deaf, they can’t hold a tune, but they really love to sing. Yes, we all know such a person, and if you don’t, then you may actually be that person. Let’s say that person comes to you and tells you that they’re going to go on X-Factor, or American Idol, or whatever other show you know of. What do you say? You see we are taught that if you agree with someone, you are being supportive. If you disagree, then you ‘don’t believe in the person’. This is complete nonsense, but we have somewhat come to believe this. How many times do we see people with massive dreams of becoming a singer, who have complete ‘support’ from their friends and family, get humiliated by some ruthless judge in front of the entire nation on TV? My question is simple, “Why hasn’t anyone stopped them before this?”.

Now let me be clear here, I am not talking about speaking negatively into someone’s life. I know that the Bible says that we are more than conquerors in Jesus, and we should have faith. I am not talking about people who try and scare you into not taking a chance. I am merely saying that just because someone disagrees with you, doesn’t mean that they don’t support you. So what am I talking about? I am talking about the times when we live our lives in a way that goes against scripture. Let me use an extreme example. If I were cheating on my wife, and one of my friends found out, what would they do? I would hope that they would call me out in no uncertain terms and tell me to stop. In fact, if one of them actually punched me in the face, I wouldn’t see it as an over-reaction. Now I am not condoning violence, but my point is simple, in supporting people sometimes we may have to disagree with them. People are sometimes going to do the wrong things, and a true friend will stop them. If you really love someone, sometimes you need to stand against their actions. Sometimes, supporting someone means stopping them from doing something stupid. As per the singing example, you stop them from the humiliation of being told the truth on live TV. With other more serious actions, sometimes the consequences could be 100 times worse, so we need to step in and tell people when they are making a bad choice.

I grew up in South Africa, but live in the UK, and I think that it is safe to say that English people often disagree with someone but very seldom tell them. The general ‘socially acceptable’ way here is to have a good moan about the fact that someone is doing something wrong, but don’t actually tell them because you don’t want to upset them. Now before you get upset, this is a gross generalisation, but the generalisation for South Africans is different. We are very quick to go and tell the person that they are wrong and that they should sort themselves out. This is also not the best way, as it is often not done in love, but more from a point of condemnation. I don’t know what the general trend is in the US, as I have never been there, but the bulk of people that read this blog are from the US so maybe you can comment and let me know.

Here is the bottom line. If we truly love and support our friends, we will tell them when they are doing something wrong and encourage them to do it right. We will not condemn, but we will not ignore their actions (or worse, encourage the wrong actions). We are called to hold each other accountable, that is not condemning. We hold each other accountable in order to build them up, the devil condemns in order to tear us down, there is a massive difference between the two. Encouraging people to stop doing what is wrong, is part of encouraging people to do what is right. We are called to do both of those things. So next time your friend opposes you in love, next time they challenge you on something that you are doing, don’t jump down their throat. Ask yourself, is there something that you need to change? Are they right? If they are, then maybe you need to listen to them. If they are not, they are still only trying to help, so go easy on them. Don’t accept negativity over your life, but don’t just disregard anyone who disagrees with you, there may be an important lesson lost.

Until next week.